Almost everybody wants to find love and get into a relationship. There comes a time when you begin to assess your relationship status and strive to change that part of your Facebook profile that says ‘single’.

Perhaps everyone around you is hooked up, paired and partnered and at social gatherings, you always happen to be the awkward third wheel. Or you’ve just woken up from a very long and deep emotional slumber and realised that it’s been over half a decade or more since your last relationship.

If this sounds something remotely close to your situation, the following are a couple of good reasons why you’re arriving single at a doubles tennis tournament;

1. Fear of Commitment: Relationships happen because of commitment or at least something close to commitment. If you’re always unattainable or reluctant to be open, and always refuse opportunities to hang out (the ones that seem like they might lead somewhere), you might have a commitment phobia and that won’t do you any good if you’re planning to get out of the single zone.

2. Unrealistic Expectations: While it is good to have an idea of the kind of partner you want, you might want to tone down the expectation pitch just a little bit. Be realistic with your hopes and dreams for your partner. If he/she must have characteristics similar to the gods and goddesses of Greek and Roman mythology, you most certainly will remain single till the end of life.

3. Fixated on Past Relationships: You might have had a really great relationship that ended, and while we know it can be hard to move on from a break up, if you really want to stop being the only single person in your group of friends, you need to try even harder to move on. Perhaps you’re still single because you’ve romanticised your old relationship to the point where you can’t move on past it. No matter how perfect or ideal your old love was, it ended. End the fantasy and move on or risk being a lonely single for life.


Author: Aderonke Adeleke

Writer. Music lover. Movie junkie. Social Media Enthusiast. Aspiring dancer. Aspiring photographer. Social Introvert.