14 June 2016
It’s okay to state your opinions on social media if you have to, after all, whether or not someone’s opinion is absolutely right is dependent on how it stands against all odds of counter opinions.
Sometimes, we wear the learning shoes, know we can be wrong and accept right away to think or form better opinions about things. Other times however, we throw the learning shoes away.
Despite the goodness of your stand in an argument; whether on social media or not, it does more harm than good when it is executed in the most unruly and haphazard fashion.
There is absolutely no judgement for the inability to state your points articulately without demeaning the other person – even when they show they are undeserving of your calmness.
How do you then save yourself from the negativity and vitriol that hangs ever so easily in online debates? The suggestions below sure will help:
1. Drop the garments of superiority: We understand that you probably have the highest degree of training in a particular subject, but you must understand that, especially online, everyone has an equal voice. If you feel too high off from everyone else, you shouldn’t even be in that debate to start with. Even authors who release a body of collective work about their thoughts/ideas, once in a while get challenged. You are intelligent, yes, but remember everyone has freedom of speech, just as much as you.
2. Don’t feed the other side: We call them trolls sometimes – some people are actually just online to argue even what doesn’t need argument. For instance, if you say a boy is a male, they go around every corner to try and convince you that a boy is a female when fundamentally, boys are male and girls are female. Other times, these trolls are just out to ridicule you and drive you to anger, their goal in every argument is to throw shade. It is left to you to determine those who really want to be objective about an argument and those who are purely sentimental. Even if you want to try and make them see, do it with love.
3. You don’t have to respond immediately: A well brooded over answer is better than the rushed answers we give just because we believe we have to respond immediately. We so readily unleash words that simply pop into our minds which sometimes do not reflect what we really think about the issue.
4. Know when to apologise: For when you have wandered far from your boundary, you could have unknowingly said a few things you are not quite proud of. Nobody is removing anything from your bank account, apologise if you are wrong.
5. Be receptive of knowledge: Generally, it is a fact that everyone you meet knows something you don’t. Identify new knowledge and learn. It makes conversations with others a whole lot less stressful.