11 August 2016
The beauty of the world is its diversity. Diversity of people, language, cultures, characters, traits, abilities, habits; the list is endless. There is no shortage of the number of things and ways in which the people of the world are diverse.
This diversity and differences while good, can also be a big problem, because it means that at one point or the other, you will have to deal with someone with a different point of view or opinion or way of life or behavior or background or acceptance level (this list is also endless) from yours.
This means that clashes and conflict situations are bound to occur in almost all of our daily interactions because we have to deal with these people who have differing characteristics from us. How do you deal with this clash/conflict? Certainly not by keeping it in.
The effect of keeping matters of conflict within ourselves is a ticking time bomb of a sudden outburst at the subject of our vexation. Consider what happens when you shake a bottle of soda. Notice how the contents spill out? That will be you firing words you will not even mean to say, which you will never be able to take back once they have been uttered.
In a conflict situation, do not bottle up your emotions in a bid to “avoid conflict”. It’s a conflict situation, so the conflict is already there, you might as well face it, talk about it, deal with it (positively and politely) and move on.
Under no circumstances should you bottle up your feelings because you are not a bottle of coke. Besides, bottled up feelings will always find a way to reveal itself. This can happen in a way or time you might not want it. Deliberate exposure is best; control the outcome, minimize the damage.
Author: Aderonke Adeleke
Writer. Music lover. Movie junkie. Social Media Enthusiast. Aspiring dancer. Aspiring photographer. Social Introvert.