18 May 2016
First impression is the initial thing you notice about a person when you meet them for the first time. There demeanor screams out at you and most times shapes and determines how you see them in subsequent times. However, while first impression always seems to have a lasting effect on how you perceive individuals you meet, it’s not a very good way to tell the kind of person they are.
Individuals have different parts of themselves they reveal to different persons respectively in interpersonal communications. There are parts of self that you know and you openly expose to people you meet, and there are parts you do not know and you unwittingly expose. The parts of yourself you reveal to people is determined by various factors or triggers.
For instance, if you meet someone at a place they don’t want to be, because of their dislike for the physical location, they might come off as reluctant or distant in the communication encounter, and it is possible that might lead you to assume that such individual is aloof, unfriendly and cold.
However, when you meet such person in a different environment where they are more relaxed, they will come off and respond to the communication encounter in a completely different manner. Thus, the social situation or pre-existing conditions present during an interpersonal interaction greatly determines the outcome.
It is therefore wrong and a great disservice to human kind and interpersonal relations to judge someone solely on the impression they gave off on your first encounter. While first impressions are strong and indeed last long, they are not a very good way to judge an individual’s character or personality. They are a hasty generalization and all individuals deserve the right of multiple social interactions in various situations before a judgement on their character and personality can be made.
Author: Aderonke Adeleke
Writer. Music lover. Movie junkie. Social Media Enthusiast. Aspiring dancer. Aspiring photographer. Social Introvert.