17 May 2016
Break-ups and the heartbreaks that follows it are almost inevitable in today’s dating culture. While there are still couples that have met and carried on to find happiness for the rest of their lives, some can’t escape the sting of heartbreak. Needless to say, even in movies where this is often reflected with consumption of copious amounts of alcohol or sex sprees met with lonely sobs by cold pillows, it is not a feeling anyone wants to last. So how do we go about handling this dreaded event as best as we can?
Firstly, it is important to understand that a lot of our relationships end for our own good and hence we have to give up the fight to build back what we once have. To do this, we need to get back to learning how to be alone again. The first step to doing this is to completely cut off communication with the ex-partner. This is always a difficult step, but attempts to form a friendship immediately after break-ups fail because it is always awkward treating people differently after a long time in romantic relationships.
The second step is to keep busy, and by busy, not busy trying to replace what was lost, but busy building something new with yourself. It is only after we have regained our sense of self independent of our partner that we are ready to re-connect with exs or build new relationships. So get to the deleting of whatever you need deleted, and hide all those gifts that reminds you of the person on a daily basis. To remember the best of times, we must first forget an awful lot.