28 April 2016
As children, we were taught to always respect our elders. So naturally, we grew up to accord respect only to those older than us. But the truth is, respect isn’t just an age thing, it’s a universal thing. So whether young or old, black or white, slave or free, everyone deserves to be treated with respect.
As we’ve grown older, we have been able to determine for ourselves the reach of our respect to others, but for some, the concept of respect is still guarded by cultural and religious upbringing. In a relationship, respect can almost be said to be the backbone helping that relationship to stand. If partners don’t respect each others views and differences, even the “love” they have for each other can only go so far.
Respect tells you; “I know you’re different from me but I love and respect that difference all the same”. It is allowing your partner be different from you and showing consideration for their views and differences.
It is important for us to respect everyone, but most important to respect our partners.
You cannot claim to love someone you don’t respect. That love is incomplete. As the saying goes, respect is reciprocal; a man should not always expect the woman to respect him when he’s not willing to respect her in return. To get, you have to be willing to give.
The fact that in relationships, the onus is always on the woman to honor and respect doesn’t mean that the man is above respecting back. It is culture and religion that attempts to constrict respect in a relationship to be from the woman to the man. The true way of life should be general respect for everyone – regardless of their status to yours – because it is the right thing to do.
When there is mutual respect in a relationship, no one feels used or taken for granted. Respect for each others roles and differences is essential in making a relationship work.
Author: Aderonke Adeleke
Writer. Music lover. Movie junkie. Social Media Enthusiast. Aspiring dancer. Aspiring photographer. Social Introvert.