31 August 2016
If you have been working for a while, you will agree with me that when a new female employee without a wedding band on her finger walks into the office for the first time, you see men hanging around for nothing really and trying to catch a glimpse (or the other way round) of the latest damsel in the workplace.
This happens from time to time. From being a secret admirer that is always looking into her cubicle just to know whether she is at work for that day, to the guy who always buys her lunch.
Gathering momentum, she also notices this and smiles, knowing that there’s an alpha male around who isn’t entirely bad after all, admitting to herself, it could happen sometimes soon.
If you are still at this stage, you have nothing to worry about; some of your superiors were once like you, so, keep reading and learning how they managed the situation.
A survey that was conducted recently by CareerBuilder reveals that nearly 40 per cent of employees admitted to having a romantic relationship with a co-worker, and one-third of office relationship results in marriage.
As sweet as dating at work sounds, some have ended badly, affecting work and productivity.
So when work dating goes sour, work and professionalism suffers since the victims begin to suffer emotional breakdown and psychological imbalance.
This is one of the major reasons why most multinational companies have a policy that doesn’t favour work dating.
Below are some simple rules to follow in order to have a successful romantic relationship at work.
Try being friends first. Many people who rush into relationship at work often rush out of it. Usually because they simply followed their adrenaline shots and never took time to find out if that’s what they really wanted.
Know company policy
You don’t have to carry a mega phone about the office asking around: “what’s the company policy for dating here”? Become an FBI agent for once, and find out from trusted associates or from the legal department, what the dating policies are, don’t be caught in a web.
Ensure you are on the same page with your partner
Before it gets all tensed up and emotional, be sure to find out from your “prey” what his or her view is on workplace dating, don’t assume.
Don’t be overwhelmed by emotions; don’t send her love notes through office computers. You might be copying your superiors without knowing. Keep your looks and communication professional. Work must not be affected.
Make a rule of keeping quarrels off work
Both parties should agree to keep their fights far away from work. Quarrels should not keep you from passing important company information to your lover.
Think ahead of what to do if it doesn’t work out
On your own, try to figure out how to handle the situation if it turns sour. This is not to say, you should be pessimistic, it is called “caution”; not every relationship will end in marriage anyway. Talk to your confidants about it before you start out.
Have a plan
After surviving the storms of relationship and everything appears to be heading towards the aisle, have a long-term plan with your mate. Some companies don’t allow married couples to remain employees, plan on how either of you will find another job before fixing the wedding date.
Having known these, now go ahead and talk to that damsel, she might be worth the stress after all.
Author: Dotun Obatuyi
My name is Dotun Obatuyi (Dotunoba), I hail from Osun state, a public health scientist (monitoring and evaluation specialist), my keen interests are researching, critiquing and writing feature articles on health, science and technology as well as issues around the globe.