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Like being on a flight, being in a relationship is a delicate arena.

At times, you enjoy the flow and sometimes, terror strikes hard on you, then you almost tear into pieces and start feeling uncomfortable.

When this happens, you need not trouble yourself over it. You only need to know why it’s shaking. It may just be that you’ve failed in some aspects.

#1. Flashback

You need to look back at what you were doing when you first started. What are the factors behind the fun you’ve had when it all started. You might have stopped them due to suspicion or ego or pride. If so, you need to go back to them.

It may be that you are always chatting or calling him/her first? Now you begin to feel you’re the only one doing that. You begin to feel you’ll appear inferior or cheap continuing in that manner, then you get it wrong. It’s only an issue if his/her reaction towards that had changed that such feeling could be allowed to crawl in.

#2. Better Option Lurks Around

It’s possible you might be seeing other people who you feel you deserve better than your partner. If this happens, then it’s inevitable that your affection for your partner will reduce. Also, your partner might be the one in that shoe.

Then, why not call a roundtable talk at the beach, shopping mall or any relaxation place and talk it out. Why not tell your partner what’s new you want him/her to adopt (if it may be easy to do) or why not ask your partner for what s/he expects from you.

#3. Looking Back At Old Memories

You may look back at your life and remember it by the happy memories you had. Now comparing such a life to the present may shake your feet and you start feeling awkward. Some will feel like going back to single life.

Why not look at what you thought you enjoyed in the old single life and bring it into your sweet relationship?

#4. Thinking Ahead

It’s wise for you to plan your future together. Seeing yourself in the future with your partner is a great factor that helps you stabilize your relationship rather than hoping you’ll have a better person. See your partner as your best match and soul mate.

If you have not shared passions or long term goals together, both of you will have nothing to look forward to and will definitely end up getting bored of each other.

Build castles in the air together, and learn to dream about a better life together. It’ll make both of you feel more passionate about working towards a common goal, and bring both of you closer too.

In all, what you need is to right the wrongs in your relationship. You may not be able to get the wrongs if you’re not observant.

The above will serve as a road map for you to curbing the menace bedeviling your relationship. And if you adopt them, your love affair will blossom and you’ll smile again at it.

Author: Taofeek Ayeyemi