To romanticise an idea is to consider it in perfect light, without any of the negative or troubling implications.
In a world where Disney movies and romantic comedies are pushing the idea of ‘happily-ever-afters’, we have come to associate relationships with romance in such a way that it has raised our expectations to levels that are almost impractical.
Given that the world we live in now has functional obligations like finances, taking out the trash, and raising children, our expectations look even more impractical.
The result of our expectations is the illusion that things are not working out in our romantic lives mainly because we aren’t aware that rose bushes aren’t without thorns.
To rethink romanticism in our relationship would mean to understand that two individuals cannot attain any form of perfection without going through a series of ups and downs.
In a society where disagreements and arguments are often seen exclusively as signs that all is not well; and not as bridges to rectify areas of miscommunication, it is easy to think the worst of our relationship when it is going through a natural and even healthy course in its development.
Rethinking romanticism in our relationship would mean accepting that the goal is not perfection, the goal is ambivalence.
It would mean understanding that everything doesn’t have to be ideal for our relationship to be successful or beautiful. It also means understanding that marriage though a bed of roses, will never be without it thorns.