29 June 2016
Love is an important part of every relationship!!!
When we meet someone and we fall in love, for a brief moment, our senses and thinking lose all control and all authority. At that point, we are no longer in charge of making decisions regarding ourselves and life.
The saying: “The heart wants what the heart wants” comes into play at this point as the heart is now in control.
Picture the heart kicking the brain to the backseat and taking the wheels. The heart is in charge now. It’s driving your life. And the reality is that there’s nothing you can do about it.
Why would you even want to do something about it? After all love they say and in reality to many is a beautiful thing.
Apart from the warm fuzzy feelings you get when you’re with that person, having a partner to share life’s experiences and joys, sadness, trials, temptations and tribulations with makes you stronger and happier.
So when you meet someone you feel a connection with, falling in love with them is the only logical next step. Delay can be dangerous.
Falling in love now brings us to the question; is love enough? Falling in love is one part, staying in love is another, and then staying in love in a relationship is an entirely different thing.
To have a long and fulfilling relationship with your partner or significant other, when the butterflies are gone and you get to the part where you have to stay in love, it becomes clear that love can never really be enough to keep you two together.
A relationship involves two random individuals coming together to have one shared life. Each individual will bring separate ideologies, experiences, temperaments, behavioural and characteristic traits that sometimes might be similar but most times will be in contrast with the other’s.
Siblings within a family act differently, even identical twins have different temperaments. Though they are family, it is common to occasional have problems when those traits clash.
If that can happen with siblings who have lived most of their lives together, what hope is there for a relationship with an individual who prior to your meeting had an entirely different life and upbringing from yours?
It takes more than love to sustain a relationship. It sure takes more than the warm, fuzzy feeling in the pit of your gut also.
To sustain a relationship takes understanding; of traits and characteristics you do not possess or are even in contrast with yours.
It will take compromises – the ability to overlook certain things as long as they are not against your core values and beliefs.
It also takes acceptance; of who they are as individuals in order to learn to love them for their uniqueness and differences, especially in comparison to you.
Author: Aderonke Adeleke
Writer. Music lover. Movie junkie. Social Media Enthusiast. Aspiring dancer. Aspiring photographer. Social Introvert.