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A love affair need not be a coercive exercise with sacrificial routine. It must be a practice with unconscious display of affection.

So when you begin to get conscious of every tiny little detail of your act, what this simply means is that you’re no more in love.

In that situation, you need to bring the romance back and redeem the faded love if you must continue in the relationship.

This is because a relationship that has lost love will quickly start becoming a burden on the partners involved. The partners will begin experiencing pain where you once were experiencing joy.

Here are the signs that you’re no more in love.

#1. You argue a lot and even lose respect while at it

Arguments are a sign of misunderstandings and not loss of love. In fact, as long as the arguments are constructive, it can help better the relationship.

But there are always better ways to understand each other – for starters, communication.

While arguing, if there’s no limit to what you say and how you say it, then something is wrong. This simply means there is no more respect and respect is a strong pillar in all affairs.

When you lose respect for your partner, you wouldn’t think twice before yelling at them or even scorning them for a small mistake, even if there are others around.

You can’t really be in love with someone you don’t respect. It’s as simple as that.

#2. You’ve Stopped Most Of What You Used To Do

When you’re young in love, both of you may hold hands all the time and peck each other like birds and bird seeds.

If you had a hard time getting to a room in time at the beginning of your relationship and find that both of you have now lost the urge to get cuddly all the time, it doesn’t mean you don’t love each other. It just means that your love has matured beyond infatuation into something calmer.

You could jump and bounce off beds like two horny bunnies at the start of the relationship. But as the relationship matures, there is a possibility of losing the sexual enthusiasm. Bring back the desire in bed by recharging those energizer bunnies with sex appeal and whatever else that can turn either of you on.

#3. You’re No More Cool With Partner’s Doings

Your partner may be watching the TV, preparing dinner, or just having a conversation on the phone. It doesn’t matter what they do, but every now and then, you’d just have a sudden urge to scrunch up your face in annoyance or grumble to yourself. You may have no idea why, but the very sight of your partner may start to irritate you. Then, something is wrong with your love.

At the beginning of a relationship, your eyes light up with happiness when you see your partner or have a fun conversation with them.

Do you feel restless or bored when you spend time with your partner, or do you look for ways to stay back at work or stay out more often with your own friends? You’d know you’re not in love anymore if your partner just doesn’t excite you anymore.

#4. You’re Still Crushing Deeply On Others

You may have a nice time with your partner, and everything may seem perfectly fine on the outside. But in your own mind, are you constantly appreciating beauty and hoping for a chance encounter to cheat on your partner?

You may not be trolling websites for extramarital affairs, but you try to meet other prospective dates all the time with the hope of cheating on your partner.

When you consciously try to cheat on your partner all the time, you’re not in love. You just like the stability of a backup relationship.

#5. Jealousy Rules Your Mind

Are you secretly jealous of your partner? An insidious bit of envy is certainly acceptable. It’s reasonable to envy the smartness and beauty of your partner, it’s appreciation. But when the awe and envy turns to red-eyed jealousy, the relationship starts to get dwindling.

But if you do take that a step further and try to secretly jeopardize their success, it’s better to end the relationship rather than face the bitter consequences.

Do you spend more of your man’s money when you’re angry with him? Do you purposely keep your woman occupied with other things just so she can screw up her presentation the next day?

Well, these little acts could seem like a childish way to get back at a partner, but it’s actually a deeper psychological agenda to put down a partner, which in turn can bring both of you down.

While the emotion of falling in love is intense and blissful, the emotions of falling out of love can be just as intense. When you’re falling out of love, the signs may not be clear at the beginning.

But as time passes by, you’d start to see a few of these signs crop up every now and then, for no reason at all.

Before it gets out of hands, if the above are becoming obvious in your relationship, quickly take care of them and redeem your relationship, if possible…

Author: Yemi Olarinre